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Crawdad's avatar

It seems to me that the vast majority of us would welcome, or at least be fine with, "playfulness" around ethnicity and sex if the one doing playing wouldn't make claims to actually BE the ethnicity or sex s/he is playing at. Pretend play and suspension of disbelief is a *temporary contract* between the player and the audience; if your role is to play the President of the United States, you don't get to take your role off stage and walk straight into the Oval Office to hold a press conference. People who identify as transgender are requiring too much of everyone else: we don't want to play pretend all day with you; we have other priorities and interests, and may in fact disagree with your view of reality. It used to be that people who wanted others to go along with their opposite-sex pronouns had a circle of intimate friends who would participate/validate them and the rest of the society was off the hook and the trans-identified person would simply have to deal. That's what we need to go back to.

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Ian MacKenzie's avatar

One of the fun things about being American (or it used to be) was our dueling ethnicities. As an old school New Yorker I had many fun conversations that started with "where were your people from." Not today. Somehow that's aggression. Anyway, as half Italian and half Scottish I leaned into the first when the topic was food and the latter when it was time to dress up for fancy parties and weddings.

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